Welcome
We're so excited to come together and explore all things open and poly! Take some time to familiarise yourself with the website—there's plenty of supporting information and resources to explore.
Video Seminars
Supporting video seminars will be shared a few weeks ahead of each training date to help inform and guide our discussions on the day.
Reading Lists & Materials
We've gathered written resources that we’ve found valuable—feel free to use whatever resonates with you.
Tending to Yourself
Stay present, connected, and mindful during training. Below, you'll find practices to support an embodied approach before each day of online learning.
A Social Justice Throuple - Intersectional Feminism, Decolonising and GSRD Perspectives
Social Justice at the Heart of Our Work
As we welcome you to this course, we’d like to share the principles that underpin everything we teach—and live by. Central to this is what we call a “Social Justice Throuple”: the integration of three key perspectives that ground and guide the course.
Our training is rooted in a social justice framework, both in delivery and in how we live and work, personally and professionally. We are committed to anti-oppressive and anti-discriminatory practices in therapy, education, and all human relationships.
We understand that fairness does not mean treating everyone the same. Instead, we strive to recognise and reflect on our own biases and assumptions, as well as those embedded in the broader systems we all live within.
Reflexivity is central to our approach. This means being willing to notice and challenge our own privileges, so we can remain open to others' experiences and become more aware of how intersecting forms of oppression both marginalise and benefit different social groups. We believe this is essential—not only to therapeutic work, but to how we relate to each other as human beings.
We reject the idea of a hierarchy of oppression. All systemic oppression is interconnected—so justice must be approached as an intersectional concern. That’s why we weave together insights from:
Intersectional feminism
Decolonising perspectives
GSRD (gender, sexual and relationship diversity) and queer theory
Together, these lenses form the foundation of our learning community—a space that invites challenge, compassion, and collective growth.
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We recognise that systemic and institutional racism has played a part in how racialised people have experienced learning in white majority cultures. We will strive to address any racism, xenophobia, islamophobia and anti-semitism we see or are informed of, whether this is intentional or not. We challenge ourselves to face our embedded racism and will encourage others to do the same, even when this is uncomfortable.
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We understand disability can be visible and invisible, temporary or permanent as well as fluctuating. We connect with the Expanded Social Model of Disability which recognises how society disables certain people. We have ensured the venues we use for the residential modules are wheelchair-accessible. We recognise that the needs of neurodivergent people in education and learning are often not met and will make adjustments to our material and delivery to try to meet the needs of all people on our course. Please let us know any requirements you have before or during the course.
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As specialists in GSRD therapy, we adhere to the Memorandum of Understanding which seeks to prevent conversion therapy. https://pinktherapy.org/mou2/ While MoU2 does not specifically acknowledge diverse relationship structures, its principles apply to counter therapist bias and prevent '“attempts to bring about a change of [relationship style], or seeks to suppress an individual’s expression of [relationship style].”
The current U-turn from the government in deliberately failing to protect trans, non-binary, and gender-queer people is a human rights abuse. We know that ‘gender-critical’ views are a protected characteristic under the Equality Act. However, we believe that the term gender-critical is inaccurate as therapists holding these perspectives only appear to be critical of trans identities, rarely cisgender identities. For this reason, we refer to ‘trans-critical’ views rather than ‘gender-critical.’ We would invite conversation about the nuances of working with cis, trans, non-binary, and gender-expansive identities so that we can all work ethically and therapeutically with clients.
Gender fluidity exists, has always existed, and always will and we start from this stance to elevate and progress understanding of gender from an affirmative stance. We are open to receiving feedback if we fail to address cisnormativity or trans-hostility.
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We will strive to recognise and address sexism, misogyny, homophobia, biphobia, queerphobia, polyphobia, and other narrowing or norming stances that problematise, invisibilise or delegitimise human identities and lived experiences that need to be valued, celebrated, and protected. Normative values are both covert and overt and we recognise that learning to live in non-oppressive ways takes work and always involves others.
We want to create an environment that invites openness and spontaneity and does not police, shame, or correct. For a learning culture to be safe enough and rich enough to inspire learning there needs to be room for error and mistakes. Alongside a commitment to challenge and take responsibility for speech and behaviours which can harm others, intentionally or not. We invite people to consider their positions of privilege and to be open to feedback from those with lived experiences of ‘power over’ due to sexist, queerphobic, heteronormative, and mononormative cultures and experiences.
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Dual relationships are more likely to occur in smaller networks such as queer, trans, kink, polyamorous, and swingers’ communities. Therapists aware of social justice issues can also be politically active and you might encounter some overlapping relationships at Opening Up courses, including with us as your course tutors. If you think that a client/ex-client, supervisee, ex-lover may be interested in this CPD you are welcome to let us know so we can talk with you about reducing any compromising overlap.
We will do what we can to limit unwanted crossovers in our courses. We do this by sharing (with permission), the names of the people who are attending the CPD modules. If you recognise a name, we can then identify how the people involved would want to respond. One person may decide to delay taking the course for a year or take another module (online or residential) so they can be involved separately in this CPD.
With a queer, feminist, decolonising lens we invite people to engage with deconstructing mainstream ideas about what ‘professionalism’ and ‘boundaries’ constitute and who they benefit. We are clear that boundaries are always a part of any human relationship and how they are named, negotiated, enacted and maintained is important to engage with. The terms power over and power with will be addressed and considered in our modules. Ethics within therapeutic, peer, and training relationships will be actively reviewed as each unique situation arises.
Complimentary Practices
Here are some complimentary practices for embodiment.
with Elisa de Grey.
Concerns and Complaints
We will work to make your experience as good as possible. We are aware of our fallibility and are keen to learn from any errors made. We invite you to address any concerns you have directly with us. We try to live by our collaborative, non-hierarchical approach to learning so are willing to reflect non-defensively on what we are doing and how this might be affecting you. We actively seek your feedback and will respond constructively.
If after this you remain unsatisfied with our response, we will seek independent arbitration from a mediation service to resolve the concern.
Social Media
We are active on social media to advertise, share relevant posts that reflect concerns adjacent to the course, and keep you in touch with any course developments. We post short videos where we discuss practice topics about all things open and poly that come up during our relationship therapy work. Feel free to follow us to join the discussion and build the community.